That's right I said it. Adult children need parenting too. Whether it is parenting about relationship, money or one of a dozen other topics, they still occassionally need parenting. It isn't the parenting that changes when your children become adults, it is the delivery of the parenting. Things that need to change: tone of voice, relying on natural consequences to steer adult children and your reaction when they don't take your advice. It needs to take on the appearance of advice giving. Be there when they ask for advice and occasionally when they don't. Fight the urge to intervene all the time because they will just ignore your advice all the time if you do that. Save your parenting for those times that they really need it.
Parenting doesn't stop once your child reaches adulthood, it just changes and your role in parenting needs to change to keep up.
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