tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post478005481763319750..comments2023-11-15T09:17:39.143-08:00Comments on Parent Sharing: After the Wedding Mother of the Bride BluesKathyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17604329208565054481noreply@blogger.comBlogger131125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-40537675521990906192023-11-15T09:17:39.143-08:002023-11-15T09:17:39.143-08:00My daughter was married a month ago. My husband a...My daughter was married a month ago. My husband and I did many things to help this day go beautifully, and it did:). We helped find the event center, paid for the reception, organized the hotel and shuttles, paid for the shuttles, booked and paid for the stylist for myself and my daughter, found a wonderful florist and paid for the flowers. Ordered and paid for garland for the tables. Organized making candle rings out of the garland and took steps to keep it fresh and beautiful. During the whole process I felt on the sideline, trying to fill in and offer solutions for what might be a problem. My daughter wanted the wedding to be planned by herself and her now husband (a great guy:), so I often felt lost in my role as mother of the bride and on the outside looking in, wanting to feel more important, more included. A couple of times in the planning process, my daughter snapped at me leaving me feeling sad and quiet. We cried, I cried. We talked it through. <br />I was joyful but anxious on the day of her wedding. I was also exhausted. I am pretty sure I had the least amount of sleep among everyone involved. My daughter looked stunning, the ceremony was absolutely amazing, the reception was wonderful. When the photos arrived, there were none of my son walking me down the aisle, her father and me walking out of the ceremony, and our head table. I sobbed. The photographer said the one of myself and my son was blurry. Later she found one of my son and myself, said she would look for one of my husband and me. Two weeks later I still haven’t heard if the photographer found one of her father and me. I feel so insignificant. It is like an exclamation point on feeling unimportant. <br />Thanks for a place to say all of this, I feel guilty having these thoughts and feelings. Sometimes being heard can make all the difference. <br />We don’t regret any of the money we spent or time we invested. Our daughter thanked us often as did our son in law and his family. I am hoping I will find my way soon to letting go of the sadness and being grateful for what was a perfect day, that her father and I were so fortunate to be able to give them. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-64805456527277866332023-07-11T10:33:09.311-07:002023-07-11T10:33:09.311-07:00It's been almost a year since my daughter'...It's been almost a year since my daughter's wedding (10/1/22) and I'm feeling it even more than ever. I have a son but don't know if he'll ever get married, and if he does, it won't be the same as with my daughter. My daughter is not sure if she will have children, so that is sad to think of not being a grandmother. My husband is in nursing home so he's not around. The rest of my life is looking very lonely.Tookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09679116320319988967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-38403071341567005812023-03-27T13:41:09.369-07:002023-03-27T13:41:09.369-07:00Also, what do you do with their empty room? And m...Also, what do you do with their empty room? And my refrigerator seems so empty without her food (smoothies). I can hardly shop.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-8619246335537886402023-03-27T13:39:05.585-07:002023-03-27T13:39:05.585-07:00This is all so helpful. My daughter was married o...This is all so helpful. My daughter was married on February 3, 2023. It was a long time coming, as they had dated all through high school and college and then she moved home for the ten months before the wedding. It wasn't always pleasant and we thought we couldn't wait for it to be over. Now it is and I don't know what to do. She bought a house 15 minutes away but I don't know how much to text or visit. Her husband is not keen on us, even though we've been helpful, supportive and generous. <br />I too feel weepy, bored and listless. I don't know if I need meds, a new job or what. I am anxious yet tired...not interested in anything. I am going to see a counselor next week. I don't know if I should try to talk things through with my son-in-law or if that would be worse. Many say just be yourself and it takes time. <br />Meanwhile it feels like the life has been sucked out of our house and nothing is going on and there's nothing to do. We figured out how to pay for everything and the purchases of the wedding day are now on this months credit cards yet they have never asked how much it all really cost in the end. It feels like they have moved on yet we have a huge void.<br /><br />Where are some of you now?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-39363975216080059252021-10-27T13:06:52.582-07:002021-10-27T13:06:52.582-07:00I feel your pain. I feel your pain. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17887899872625979035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-80123742447466352952021-10-10T19:40:49.644-07:002021-10-10T19:40:49.644-07:00I'm so sorry that your daughter had this react...I'm so sorry that your daughter had this reaction. I hope that it is because she is feeling lots of different emotions since the wedding herself. I hope it blows over. My daughter got married in September and I am still trying to recover from the blues and feeling invisible and left out. I feel no sense of purpose as so many have said before in this blog. I never expected to have this reaction. I hope all these feelings fade and that you can resume a happy relationship with your daughter. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-57261370056084102382021-08-18T12:28:29.543-07:002021-08-18T12:28:29.543-07:00I am so sorry. It sounds like we are experiencing...I am so sorry. It sounds like we are experiencing similar situations. My daughter seemed angry at me throughout the wedding. I also helped her alot...feeling like I did too much for her. I am trying to back off and hopefully things resolve.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14701746393933783689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-11837762949916937482021-08-18T12:24:38.138-07:002021-08-18T12:24:38.138-07:00Great topic. My daughter was just married on Satu...Great topic. My daughter was just married on Saturday and the next day I dropped her a text saying that I was just sad and feeling like we wouldnt see them as much now. I jokingly said that I thought it was the last name change and was just feeling emotional. My daughter became angry at my text and said that I was not respecting her boundaries. She is no longer speaking to my husband and I. We were a huge support for the wedding, both financially and otherwise. We are so heartbroken and confused. Any one else experience this? Thanks.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14701746393933783689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-10268725862276228482021-07-19T06:28:09.746-07:002021-07-19T06:28:09.746-07:00This is an amazing site. Thank you for all of the ...This is an amazing site. Thank you for all of the wonderful insights. My daughter was married 2 days ago. I tried so hard to enjoy the moment but could not find the joy. This site has helped me really understand why. I was complimented by everyone but my daughter who was annoyed by all of my attempts to help. Of the 4 parents all had a small part except me. No requests for a special photo with me. She only spoke to me when she needed something. So many guests said how sweet she was, in my mind I thought yes to all but me. I knew after all was finished her and her new husband who we adore would thank us for our efforts privately and they did. The words under appreciated and not publicly honored does hurt. This obviously contributes to the depressed joyless feeling. Hope it goes away soon. Does this also happen with the baby shower after the first grandchild is born? She lives very close to the in-laws and I fear I will always be the outsider. I hate having to pretend to be happy when I feel so sad with a heavy heart. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-5729864849394804072021-04-27T01:25:07.569-07:002021-04-27T01:25:07.569-07:00I keep obsessing on the small things that went wro...I keep obsessing on the small things that went wrong. I did not get a photo of me and my husband, the tiny mistakes in my toast, where was I when it was time to help my daughter get changed and someone else got to help her. I lost 15 lbs for the wedding to look slender in my dress. Then the morning of the wedding day, I decided to get an IV drip of vitamins and hydration and as the day progresses, I start to bloat and my dress barely even fit. That morning, I tried it on and I looked amazing and then I messed it all up and look like a COW.I am embarrassed I was walking around like a stuffed sausage and I look horrible in the pics. I can't stop hating myself for what I did. And I feel underappreciated. After all I contributed, I did not have a corsage or a thank you note or a gift although I wasn't expecting anything. I am just disappointed and confused on how I am feeling. Sad, exhausted, can't sleep and I want (wanted) some extra attention, I guess. I asked the photographer if she could photoshop me in the pics and I feel selfish now. No one cares what the MOTB looks like but I am sick at how horrible I looked and felt that day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-8215837651175141752020-10-19T02:15:43.043-07:002020-10-19T02:15:43.043-07:00I'm so glad I found this site. My daughter was...I'm so glad I found this site. My daughter was married this past Saturday. I had been planning this for over a year. While everyone told me the ceremony was beautiful, I, like most here, focused on the things that I know went wrong. The groom's mother went out of her way to make things difficult. I planned out a song to have the grandparents walk into. I wanted to give them a place of honor in the ceremony. The groom's mother and I spoke about all of this at the rehearsal and she knew how things were supposed to go. Day of, she seats her mother way before the ceremony and tells me "she's fine where she is". I shrugged it off and told the usher (my son) not to worry about it. My son was supposed to usher the groom's mother down the aisle and up to the unity candle. When he went over to escort her, she was rude and said I'll just walk myself! She then proceeds to stop, grab her ex husband and take him up to the unity candle with her. That would not have bothered me except they light the WRONG candle and as I am being ushered in to a very special song to me and my daughter, the grooms father runs up to the candle, blows out the middle one, and bounds down the steps past me. I know this probably sounds petty but the only thing that I wanted for me was to have that moment and that song. Ruined.... The lady that I had in the back to coordinate the wedding party walking in sent everyone in too fast so that song got cut off also. The rest of the ceremony was beautiful and my daughter was radiant. The groom's family were really critical of everything about the reception from the food served, to when things were done. The mother of the groom complained that she had not been included in the planning to anyone who would listen (I tried numerous times to include her only to be ignored) and then left without even a word to either myself or my husband. All the complainers never offered to help with anything, were not there to help set everything up and left long before the work of tearing everything down began. The bride and groom were oblivious to this and I'm glad. My daughter's new husband is a gem and we love him very much. Now that it's over, I find that I am weepy, tired and have a complete loss of purpose. I hope that this goes away soon!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13558434991710538871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-64582988966039804422020-10-15T14:00:17.470-07:002020-10-15T14:00:17.470-07:00Well, ladies....someone mentioned post wedding dep...Well, ladies....someone mentioned post wedding depression to me last night. I'd never heard of it but it's obviously a real issue. We're coming up on 4 wks since the wedding. I gave myself 2 weeks afterward to rest because I tend to get a migraine 2 wks after a stressful time. But I have been obsessing over the things that went wrong, feeling like a failure because I got so stressed out during set up that both my son and daughter were "talking me in off the ledge". Quite a role reversal since I've been the one talking my daughter back in her whole life. I wanted to get a lot of candid shots of the attendees for the couple because I know how fast the reception goes and you feel like you didn't see a lot of the people. I got a few but got involved with trying to enjoy the evening and deescalate as much as possible. I've been beating myself up that I didn't do a speech or toast. I had asked my daughter for permission to share something and she didnt give it and I couldnt think of anything else to say. I, too, only had a half hr to get ready and was afraid I'd look bedraggled and tired. I didnt have a dress until 6 days before the wedding - long story. Only got the shoes 2 days before. I hadnt even had time to make sure about the hem length and that I'd be able to walk in the dress. So much unnecessary stress that I had very much hoped to avoid. I had tried to organize everything well so set up would go quickly and smoothly but it took forever with multiple changes to the planned layout required. But, the wedding and reception ended up going well; the cold front moved out right on time so the weather was wonderful and both the bride and groom were very happy with everything. My daughter has been extremely appreciative of all my efforts during the planning and execution of the event so that is very nice. My heart goes out to those who haven't been shown that!! So painful!! So I couldn't understand my depression in the weeks that have followed. My daughter has always needed me a lot and I have been very happy that her husband was going to take over the job. But while they've been on their 3 week honeymoon in Eastern Europe, I've been feeling directionless, alone, unloved and unable to restart what there is of my life. Its terrible to say, but I'm jealous of both of my kids. I'm so very, very happy for them that they have found love with wonderful, very compatible people, but I have wanted that above all else in my life and failed to find it. Their happiness highlights the emptiness of my life. I wish someone had warned me about the downward spiral of emotions connected to your daughter's wedding so I could have had a chance to try to prepare for it. Does it happen when your son gets married, too? If so, I have that to look forward to next year. "Ages and stages" doesn't just apply to our children. My prayers for comfort for us all, that we will be able to forgive our daughters for pain inflicted, intentional or not, forgive ourselves our perceived or actual shortcomings, blessings on the new marriages and healing and unity in our families moving forward.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03755534847354193356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-20214698048323638552020-01-19T10:21:12.375-08:002020-01-19T10:21:12.375-08:00It is such a blessing to have found this blog post...It is such a blessing to have found this blog post. My daughter with Cerebral Palsy whom is 29 got married three weeks ago. My SIL also has Cerebral Palsy. They were gone for a week for a honeymoon and in spite of returning to work, I scrambled to get things done but now am just too exhausted to finish it. I am 59, out of shape, struggle with depression and other pain causing health ailments. It was sheer prayer and adrenaline that helped me with months of planning and a beautiful event but now I just want to cry. The new couple will live with us for what hopefully isn’t more than a couple years because as bad as that makes me feel, I am tired to the bone. My oldest of 5 daughters is 40 and I have been parenting forever. Right after the wedding my husband had Achilles repair surgery so I am trying to make sure 3 adults, besides myself are fed and okay. My husband is up on his crutches doing more than he should but I just want to run away. These posts make me realize that I am more than justified and “normal” in my whining. I hope someone sees this as I really need encouragement.GrammyKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16861495743321759645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-68876127454801380332019-12-01T09:59:28.667-08:002019-12-01T09:59:28.667-08:00Wow, I'm shocked but somewhat relieved to find...Wow, I'm shocked but somewhat relieved to find that post wedding blues is actually a thing. For those that have had hurt feelings, it is completely understandable, but as a mother who has had a good relationship with her daughter, this has caught me completely off guard. Sure, we had some stressful moments during the 10 planning months, but the day of the wedding there wasn't one drop of drama. The only thing I wish I could change would be to add more hours to the day. It all went by in a flash. Especially the getting ready part. I wish it had been more relaxed and time to just enjoy one another, but we had a timeline to stick to. How I wish we could do the day all over again. Like many of you have mentioned, I too find myself nit picking the small stuff that didn't go right that no one else would know. The bride and groom were supposed to be announced at the reception as they stood on a balcony over looking the reception hall. It was going to be so beautiful and fairytale like, but they had to alter the plan at the last minute because the videographer was standing there instead. The photographer didn't use the shot list we spent so much time typing up, and therefore a lot of the special shots we wanted didn't happen. Because we were running behind schedule getting ready, my daughter's veil was quickly put on by someone besides me, which was a huge disappointment. All in all, it was such a beautiful day. The weather and the venue and the ceremony couldn't have been more beautiful. Why can't I just let these little things go? I find myself dwelling on them to the point of not being able to move on with my life. I will add too that towards the last few weeks leading up to the wedding, I was becoming worn out of all the wedding chores/errands, that I started to say to myself "I can't wait for this all to be over". Now I feel a tremendous guilt over feeling that way and I wish it was not over. Planning this wedding had become my full time job. We recently moved in to a new home, so there is plenty for me to do and plenty I had planned to do once the wedding was over, trouble is, I no longer feel motivated to do anything. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12306612569616967246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-44517053281439065112019-12-01T09:26:43.535-08:002019-12-01T09:26:43.535-08:00I realize what you wrote was over two years ago, b...I realize what you wrote was over two years ago, but I just want to say that my heart goes out to you. I can't imagine the pain you must have felt. I really do hope that things are better for you and your daughter now. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12306612569616967246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-34452368168840179022019-04-13T23:24:02.890-07:002019-04-13T23:24:02.890-07:00My daughter was married yesterday,4/12/2019. I'...My daughter was married yesterday,4/12/2019. I've cried for weeks. She's 28, and this is her 2nd marriage, first big wedding. She has 1 daughter from her previous marriage, and a 2nd daughter with her current husband who is 43. We've always been a close family. My oldest granddaughter spent many weekends with me. It's been over 6 months since the babies have been to spend time here. She lives 20 minutes away. My heart just keeps breaking. My mom and my daughter are extremely close as well. Or were. My daughter picked out a wedding dress several years ago, we all went together. My mom purchased the dress for her and has kept it put up. Her now husband, didnt want her to wear the dress she had already, because it was bought before they were together. When she and her bridesmaid and maid of honor went to pick out their dresses, she told me and grandmother afterwards. Of course we were both upset. She told me I could go with her to pick out her dress, this was in January. In February I asked her about her wedding dress again and got no response, to only find out through my mother at the beginning of April - she already had her dress. She picked it out in December and picked it up in February. I didn't even SEE a picture of the dress until 3 days before the wedding. She asked me about catering, I gave her several names but she decided to go with the ones her now husband picked. I understand they are together and make decisions together etc. Shes grown and I want her to be happy. She is 28 and he is 43. Since their child was born, all of a sudden according to him we are not "good enough" our houses aren't nice enough. She owned her own mobile home, but it was trashy in his eyes. So he got his parents to purchase a house in their names, though he does pay for it. I could go on. Basically besides the catering aspect, I was left out of everything. I went with my mom to purchase my dress. My mom was to make the wedding cake, she was allowed to use the topper and decorations that we've gathered over the years. Just not the dress. The maid of honor, did NOTHING. All the arrangements had to be made at the last minute by my mom. (Shes much more creative than me) Her dad and his wife flew in from out of state, and he walked her down the aisle. I got to help with a few things at the wedding, but some stuff was just staged by the photographer to make it LOOK like I was more involved. My youngest daughter did everyone's makeup. And everyone did each other's hair. Except mine. We didnt have TIME to do anything with mine. My only real part in the wedding was to go live on Facebook, so her out of state family could see and help watch the babies. The father of the groom did the ceremony, after which they only time he spoke to me, he was rude. I was SHOCKED, but didnt say anything. Even now she doesn't know. She told me the day before the wedding she had asked the DJ to play a special song for me, that didnt happen. She did her first dance with her new husband, then her father. Then the DJ played songs for her husband to dance with his mother and both his grown daughters. I'm so Hurt. My mom is hurt.The wedding and reception was beautiful for my daughter, as once again we filled In where we were allowed and needed at the last minute. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-32204581102463525042018-10-25T04:44:09.159-07:002018-10-25T04:44:09.159-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-43828938420198963362018-10-16T13:57:10.806-07:002018-10-16T13:57:10.806-07:00I hope you are feeling a little better now.
My da...I hope you are feeling a little better now.<br /><br />My daughter just got married a few days ago, and I feel like hell. <br /><br />God bless you, and God bless me, and God bless all of us poor, angry, depressed mothers on this thread. 💖Prickly Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17785652192660393397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-20644987525152900362018-10-16T12:59:07.274-07:002018-10-16T12:59:07.274-07:00I know this is so late in this conversation, but I...I know this is so late in this conversation, but I need to say this stuff anyway.<br /><br />I'm so glad you all shared your feelings here.<br /><br />Our daughter hasn't lived at home since undergrad, and she's 33 now! And the closest she has lived in all that time is an eight hour drive away.<br /><br />We returned from the wedding weekend late last night and all of a sudden I can't stop crying.<br /><br />I was less involved in planning than most of you, since she lives so far away, so I don't feel like it's a loss of activity. And the wedding was just wonderful. Everything went right.<br /><br />I think I have more of a feeling of loss.<br /><br />She is our only child, and she's always been our "little girl," but now I feel like she's not our little girl anymore, she's somebody's wife instead. And her new in laws live four hours closer to her than we do, so i feel jealous that they see her more often than we do. <br /><br />And I feel guilty about all these feelings, because this is the way life is supposed to work! You raise your child with roots and wings, and her roots are strong, but I wish she didn't have to fly so far away!<br /><br />Thank you all for sharing your stories all these years ago so I don't feel so alone with my weeping.Prickly Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17785652192660393397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-4343349470983480312018-09-24T12:24:56.063-07:002018-09-24T12:24:56.063-07:00VERY UPSETTING! I started feeling angry with how ...VERY UPSETTING! I started feeling angry with how much focus is on the BRIDESMAIDS only and not the parents or grandparents. I am sick of reading blog posts telling mothers to basically let your daughter have HER DAY.. well this is what happens.. we get 10000 photos with the bridesmaids and NONE of the mothers because we should just shut up and be invisible... I would love to hear what BRIDES think about having NO PHOTOS WITH THEIR MOTHERS.. especially ones who are 'SO CLOSE' TO THEM :( fEELING SO UPSET and discarded today after KILLING myself to give my daughter her dream wedding it's like I didn't exist. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-76321861912847009392018-09-24T12:11:17.596-07:002018-09-24T12:11:17.596-07:00I AM SO RELIEVED that I found this thread! It is ...I AM SO RELIEVED that I found this thread! It is so amazing hearing SO MANY other MOBS feeling exactly the same way. Whew... you all articulated so much of what I've been feeling- and you're all correct in saying we can't share our true feelings with friends or family who want to reassure us in how amazing the day truly was. That's not the point though I never dreamed of feeling SO INVISIBLE on the day- something i couldn't have prepared for and I DIDN'T GET A PHOTO with my daughter either :( Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-17894514458473366582018-09-05T20:43:56.330-07:002018-09-05T20:43:56.330-07:00So glad I found this site. Wedding was Saturday (4...So glad I found this site. Wedding was Saturday (4 days ago) and I am just so weepy. It was a wonderfully fun wedding. My daughter was especially appreciative and thoughtful. But I can't shake off what went wrong -- one taco cart when we paid for 2 so the guests waited up to 30 minutes standing in line, disastrous next day brunch where they kept running out of food and the 'outdoor patio for 60' was more of a side yard for 30. I was at Pilates tonight and it took everything I had not to burst out crying when the music turned sad for the ending stretches. I'm supposed to go to work tomorrow but I really don't want to even though I know it may help me snap out of this although I think I'm supposed to go through this sadness. It's made me realize that weddings are more significant than I thought. It does mark an ending to a particular point in motherhood and the beginning of a slightly different chapter. She's still my daughter but she's also someone else's wife. And I think it's okay to grieve that change. Because I think that's at the core of what I'm feeling. In retrospect I realize that the level of intensity we had planning the wedding may be an integral part to transform her from daughter to wife ... even though she will always be my daughter, it's a significant milestone in both of our lives and has created a sadness that I was not expecting. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-6924463633461164222018-06-05T16:11:58.286-07:002018-06-05T16:11:58.286-07:00My beautiful, sweet, only daughter got married on ...My beautiful, sweet, only daughter got married on Saturday. Everything went well and my girl was so good to me, including me with bridal party activities, having photos taken of us together and giving me a heart bracelet on her wedding day. I was off yesterday and cried most of the day, made it through work today but havent stopped crying since I got home. Iam so glad I found that others are feeling the same way. I feel selfish because my daughter has never been happier and her new husband is wonderful. I feel like the last months have been so busy and spending this time together with my daughter was something I dont want to end as it feels good as a mom to be needed. Since she hasnt lived with us for about a year I had no idea that I would feel like this. It helps to know that we're not alone and that this is just a part of being mom's who adore our kids. Hopefully this sadness passes quickly and we can get on with enjoying life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-78373748923611256362018-02-27T15:33:45.669-08:002018-02-27T15:33:45.669-08:00I am so thankful I found this post. My son was ma...I am so thankful I found this post. My son was married a few days ago. I'm a born-again Christian, believer and pastor. I cannot believe how emotionally drained I am. At first my mom and sister were not invited. That just tore me apart. They were later invited, but declined. I was never told the details of the wedding so I, also, felt not part of things. My son didn't answer my questions or openly share things with me so I feel so depressed. I am praying and trusting God to heal this brokeness, as it is so painful for me. I feel guilty of feeling so horrible. I have a beautiful new daughter-in-love and I love her family. This is so hard on me. Just remember to put your trust in the Lord.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3737998007487341592.post-52801094738420193902017-11-14T20:06:10.689-08:002017-11-14T20:06:10.689-08:00Wow - nice to know one isn't alone. I was feel...Wow - nice to know one isn't alone. I was feeling a bit guilty because I am so sad. I have been holding it in but feel like I can cry at the drop of a dime. I can't even remember the last time I cried. My tale is like most above - my daughter was just married. Nothing special about MOB except for a lot of work. My husband and I paid for the wedding with the exception of a few items. No picture of her and I - it was all so rushed even with planning - we didn't spend much time together at the event. Oh well - lessons learned I think once I get a good cry out I may feel better. Holidays are coming. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com